SELF DEVELOPEMENT

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Knowing Yourself
Without self knowledge self development is folly! Spending time to reflect on what type of person you are, what stereotype you fit most closely, etc, will help you a large amount when you deal with other people. You need to know how other people see you and your own strengths and weaknesses. This essay mainly deals with improving weaknesses. Knowing your own strengths is in some ways less important than knowing your weaknesses.
"The biggest weakness of all is not knowing your weaknesses and leaving them wide open for anyone to abuse at any time. If you value your friends it is advantageous for you to train their skills, too, so that those around you admire you, and those who are not your friends admire you, and those who are your enemies fear you."

Today's sorrow hides in its bosom the joys of tomorrow.Adversity is the soil in wich you sow the seeds of success.The rains that came today and ruined your path would soon make the earth green and abundant. In the womb of loss is the seed of gain.The storms and tempests that devastate life on earth also enable us to start life afresh.The night that envokes in us fearly thoughts,only reveals to us the beauty and majesty of star fiiled heavens.
Life is what we made of it
Life is we think about it
Life is what we want it to be
Life the mixture of color that we choose and put on an otherwise empty cavas. We see accept those we belive in and ignore those that do not interest us.

This the wisdom of ages, anscient as well as modern.

So think positively even amidst defficulties keep courage.With faith in your heart

SORRY

A woman who has fallen out of love with her lover and is trying to explain why she no longer wants an intimate relationship with him.


I've come here to talk to you
About something I don't understand.
I don't mean to hurt you,
But I don't want you for my man.

I used to long for you to touch me,
Now I can't stand it when you do.
What happened to us
To make me fall out of love with you?

I don't mean to hurt your feelings,
But I can't fake it anymore.
It's hard for me to lie to myself,
And you need to know the score.

No, I have found someone else,
I fallen out of love .
Maybe it'd be easier to leave you,
And not feel so damn bad.

Maybe we've been together too long,
Maybe we've never really grown.
But all I know for sure
Is I'm ready to move on.

Don't misunderstand when I tell you I still love you,
'Cause I don't want to start anew.
But even though I love you,
I don't want to be with you.

I love you like a brother,
Not like a lover.
I know you don't want to hear this,
But we can't take this any further.

I only wish the best for you,
I know you feel that for me, too.
That's why I came here to talk
That's why I'm saying these things to you.

Maybe if I were older,
Maybe if I were different,
I could accept the love I feel for you,
And not want one so intimate.

So let's end this while we can,
Let's end it on good terms.
I hope we can be friends,
But if you can't, I'll understand...

MY DEGREE

Wednesday, March 30, 2005

SHOWBITS By Danny VibasSchool’s cool again in show biz
Having a college degree is not among the credentials of many of Filipino show-biz idols, including those who run for public office and become senators in this star-struck nation. But believe it not, a humble star has just finished college and is all set to join her school’s graduation march on April 4.
Do congratulate Klaudia Koronel, one of the stars of the controversial movie Private Show, which once earned its highly educated director, Joey Reyes, the tag as the country’s “prime pornographer.” (Reyes, who has a Master of Arts in Comparative Literature from Indiana University in the United States, was once an educator himself at De La Salle University.)
Klaudia now has a Bachelor of Science in Computer Science from the New Era University along Commonwealth Avenue, a school meant primarily for the faithful of Iglesia ni Kristo.

“I finished the course in the regular four years because I practically gave up show biz in my second year in school. I had bad grades during my first year because my show-biz career was still my priority then. In my sophomore year, I stopped accepting regular TV shows and movies. I just had guest appearances in sitcoms and drama anthologies,” Klaudia tells Showbits.
Klaudia says she never got any special treatment from her teachers just because she was a celebrity. On the contrary, some teachers were stricter as if to test how serious she was in her studies.
“But, generally, people in that school were warm to me from the start, especially when I was just inquiring about the requirements to study there, even if they didn’t know yet that I am from Iglesia ni Kristo.

“There were other schools I tried applying to where I could hear the students and the school staff whispering what a sexy star like me was doing in their campus. That’s how I ended up enrolling at New Era,” recalls Klaudia who, in person, has a strong resemblance to the young Hilda Koronel. Probably the reason why her discoverer, Seiko Films producer Robbie Tan, decided to give her the screen surname “Koronel.”

Now that she’s done with college, Klaudia is again willing to accept regular TV shows and movie assignments. But she stresses that she can no longer do the movies she used to do.
“Since I studied in New Era, I became active again as an INC member, and I’m sure our ministers will not approve of me doing sexy roles again. Also, I have a boyfriend now of four years who was one of the people who inspired me to go back to school. I didn’t do it primarily for him, of course, but for myself. I needed a college degree to improve my self-esteem,” she confides.

About my past

Actress are always thought to be emotionally very tough, because of the pains and hardships they have gone through. But Milfe Dacula seems to be of a different breed. You accidentally touch a softspot in her life, and suddenly you are surprised when she comes out teary eyed, like the sensitive makahiya. She claims she didn't have a happy childhood at all. "I was the eldest and my parents left me with my grandmother in Zamboanga when I was four. It was my grandma who sent me to elementary school at du'n only that time I had new clothes once a year, during closing, I I got first honor and medal. Then my parents get me when I was 10.
It was here in Manila that I experienced how hard life was. My father was a carpenter and unlike other parents, he wasn't interested at all in sending me to school. I practically had to fend for myself to study. I did odd jobs at minsan natutulog kami ng mga kapatid ko sa ilalim ng tulay malapit sa SM Megamall. Despite my desire, hindi pa rin ako nakapagtapos ng high school. Gusto ng tatay kong makatulong kaagad ako sa paghahanapbuhay." She could not help but shed a tear on mention of her father. "I still remember the time when while we were having our dinner he would tell us, 'Kain na lang kayo nang kain. Hindi man lamang kayo nakakatulong.' Hindi lang sampal ang inaabot ko sa kanya kung minsan. Lahat ng klaseng sakit ng katawan tiniis ko."

She must have been really hurt by all the pains her father had caused her for when she mentioned her latest movie, "Pasasabugin Ko Ang Mundo Mo," where she had the chance to use a gun as an undercover, she told us, "Sanay akong humawak ng baril. Sa Zamboanga nasanay ako sa mga putukan. These are ordinary things when I was a child. But sometimes I think of aiming the gun at somebody..." Saying these things, we thought she must have had a 'death wish' for the guy who must have hurt her a lot.
But despite her bitterness, once she had herself established financially she built a house for her mom and her siblings. "Sa Project 8 ang bahay na naipatayo ko. That's where my mother stays with my brothers and sisters. Hiwalay na ang father at mother ko. He lives in our old house. When I started working, I had it repaired and now he rents it out kaya mayroon siyang monthly income. I am sending my siblings to school and I still have a six-year-old brother. Perhaps this is the reason why I hear rumors about my having a child. Minsan kasi kasa-kasama ko ang kapatid kong bunso. At kung talaga namang may anak ako gaya ng ibinabalita nila, I would readily accept it. The problem is there is no truth to it all." We found out too that she has one brother who was adopted by another family. "He's in high school. He found out recently that I was his real sister pero hindi ako nakikipagkita sa kanya. He might think of coming back to the family. He might have the wrong notion na mayaman na ako at puwede ko na siyang tustusan. I think he is in better hands with his adoptive parents." Having made one movie after the other, Klaudia can now afford to rent her own condo unit. She wants to be at peace and she treasures being alone most of the time. "I can rest without being disturbed unnecessarily."

Her greatest wish nowadays is to finally be able to find the right guy. She has a boyfriend, alright, "But we are just on the process of reconciliation. We broke up when I did 'Toro.' He wanted to marry me kaya gusto niyang huwag ko nang gawin 'yung 'Toro.' Pero iniisip ko naman ang pamilya ko. When I came back from Germany, however, bumalik siya. Usually, kapag nai-in love ako I give my all. In the past whenever he wanted me to go to Bulacan, tagaroon kasi siya, punta kaagad ako. But now I am more careful. If he wants to see me siya na ang pumupunta dito. I avoid having to face his aunties. Ayaw nila sa akin. Pero ang mommy niya mabait sa akin." Klaudia is happy the way her career has turned out. She has a regular show, "Kiss Muna," and she is scheduled to finish another movie, "Babaeng Putik." She idolizes Vilma Santos. "I can learn a lot from her- acting-wise. Pero sa tapang sa buhay I go for Osang. Sana maging kasing tapang niya rin ako sa pagharap sa mga intriga. Little things kasi can easily depress me... Like for instance when I lost my pet dog, a Shitzu. P18,000 ang bili ko sa kanya. I left her in the car at dahil mainit, pagbalik ko, patay na siya. It took me five months bago siya nawala sa isip ko!" For someone who used to sleep under the SM overpass, Klaudia Koronel has gone a long way. Unlike other actress she is in demand these days thus, she is able to help her family. She also has her boyfriend back, and can now afford to stay in a condo unit. What else then would she want in life?" I want to be recognized as an actress at gusto ko namang magkaroon ng award kahit minsan."

Klaudia Koronel revealed she is happy with her contract with Regal Films. Compared to Seiko films, she said: "Masaya ako sa Regal. There's no comparison, actually." Klaudia was Robbie Tan's most-prized talent after Rosanna Roces and Priscilla Almeda, but just like the two, Klaudia left Seiko "for greener pastures and better treatment." She ended in Dondon Monteverde's stable and starred in the critical success "Hubad Sa Ilalim Ng Buwan," which is making the rounds in international film festivals. (SNS)

Klaudia Koronel began as an actress and remains one. But somewhere along the way, she starred in two films which made their the way to the Berlin Film Festival. Now, she is the star of Tuhog, a film which, if left alone by the censors, is another strong foreign-festival material. She never thought she would get this far.She was, after all, born a carpenter's daughter and, to this day, has not be thrown out of. This is the story of her life in her words. Milfe Dacula and totoong pangalan ko, Twenty five na ako ngayon. Ipinanganak ako sa Dinas, Zamboanga del Sur. Mahirap lang kami. Ang Papa ko (Roberto, 54) karpintero, ang Mama ko naman (Teresita, 43) may maliit na sari-sari store. Ang pinakamahirap naming naranasan doon and tumira sa underground, 'yung lungga na hinuhukay, kasi naaapektuhan kami ng giyera ng Muslim at Kristiyano. Naghiwalay ang parents ko noong five years old ako. Pinaghatian nila kami ng kapatid kong si Junior. Ako ang napunta kay Papa. Dinala ako sa Iloilo, sa Tuble, San Dionisio… sa lola ko. Iniwan niya ako at nagpunta siya ng Maynila para magtrabaho. Sa Tuble na ako nag-Grade 1 hanggang Grade 3. Doon, natuto akong magsaka kasi 'yun ang ikinabubuhay ng mga lola ko. May souvenir nga akong peklat sa daliri kasi nahiwa ng dahon ng palay. Marunong akong mag-alaga ng baboy, mangahoy ng panggatong, magtanim ng mais, mag-ani ng mani…magaling din akong sumakay sa kalabaw. Buhay-bukid talaga. Kaso, noong namatay ang lolo ko, minalas na kami. "Yung bahay na tinitirhan naming, palibhasa nipa lang, natumba ng bagyo. Nakitira kami sa pinsan ko. Doon ko naranasang makisama nang todo. Ako ang taga-hugis nila ng pinggan, tagahatid ng pagkain sa palayan. Lagi akong napapalo kasi natatapon ko 'yung pagkain sa pilapil. Noong 10 years old ako, si Mama gustong magpunta ng Malaysia para beautician. Iiwan yung kapatid ko kay Papa. Nag-usap sila, nagkabalikan, hanggang ayun, naiba na plano. Hindi na nag-Malaysia si Mama. Dinala na lang kaming lahat ni Papa sa Manila. Isinakay kami ng barko. Ine-expect ko, sa Manila puro mayayaman. Nagyabang pa ako sa mga kaklase ko na pupunta kami ng Manila. Dumating kami ditto, gabi. Nadaan kami sa may Roxas Boulevard. Sabi ko, "Ang ganda-ganda! Ang daming ilaw!" Pagdating naming sa bahay ng Papa ko, gumuho lahat ng ilusyon ko. Dinala kami sa Sinagtala, sa Project 8. Squatter pala kami. Ang sikip! Mas malaki pa 'yung bahay naming sa probinsiya, Ang dilim pa. Walang ilaw, gasera lang. Akala ko pa naman may TV kasi sa probins'ya wala. Sabi ni Papa, "Kuryente nga wala, TV pa?" Ang bahay naming, yari sa plywood. Buti na lang sementado 'yung sahig. Wala silang banyo. Tapon sa sapa ang sama ng loob. "Yung igiban naman ng tubig, malayo sa bahay namin tapos pipila ka pa. "Yung movie na Pila-Balde, dapat sa akin ibinigay 'yon kasi naging buhay ko 'yun. Ang nakakatawa pa, 'yung bahay namin ewan kung bakit nasa gitna ng daan. Kaya kapag may mga lasing, 'yung bahay namin ang laging napapagdiskitahang batuhin. May time naman, na-demolish pa kami kasi gagawin daw subdivision 'yung lugar. E, bata pa ako noon kaya akala ko, masaya 'yung demolish kasi dami-daming tao sa kalye, maingay. Ako naman, bitbit ko 'yung mga damit namin na nasa sako. Nalaman ko lang na wala na pala kaming bahay nu'ng gabi na kasi nakatulog kami sa kaibigan ng Mama ko. Buti na lang ang Mama ko, matapang. Isa siya doon sa nakipaglaban pumupunta-punta sa mayor kaya yung part ng tabing-ilog ng hinati-hati sa mga squatters, isa kami sa nabigyan ng p'westo. Panibagong tayo na naman.Una, tent lang. Pero kahit naman ganu'n ang buhay namin, nakakapag-aral pa din ako-Tuloy ko na lang next time naiiyak na ako eh….

MY FAITH

Ang mga pagsubok na dumarating sa buhay ng tao ay
may Iba’t ibang dahilan. Una, maaaring ito ay bunga
ng mganagagawa nating kasalanan at pagkukulang sa
buhay.Anomang bagay na labag sa tuntunin ng Diyos
ay may kapalit at kaakibat na palo at pagtutuwid.
Maaaring minsan o madalas ay maramdaman natin na
parang nag-iisa na lang tayo sa buhay.

Kung magkaminsan ay naitatanong natin sa ating sarili,
"bakit sila masaya?" bakit ako malungkot? Lagi na
lamang bang ganito ang buhay ko? Ang ilang tao ay
nahuhulog pa sa pag-iisip ng kung anu-ano gaya ng
wakasan na lang ang buhay.Ang bawat suliranin ay
may katapat na lunas. Ang kalungkutan ay larawan
ng darating na ligaya sa hinaharap. Huwag nating
ipagkamali na kailan man na ang mga suliranin sa
buhay ay kaaway natin. Hindi!.

Bagkus ang mga ito ay katuwang natin upang lalong
tumatag at magkaroon ng karanasan sa buhay na kung ano

man ang mangyari o dumating pa ay may karanasan na
tayo ay atin na itong malalampasan.

Lahat ng bagay sa mundo ay lumilipas; kaligayayan,
katanyagan, kapurihan, kapangyarihan, at iba pa. Kung
paanong ang mga mabubuting bagay na ito ay dumarating
sa buhay natin at nawawala rin, ganun din ang mga pagsubok

sa buhay, suliranin, kalungkutan at kabiguan sa buhay.

Ang buhay ay parang gulong, patuloy na umiikot,
masaya, malungkot, sagana, nagdarahop, pag-asa,
kawalan ng pag-asa, ngiti, at pagluha. Na kung minsan at
ating wawariin ay tila baga napakahirap harapin.

Tandaan mo kaibigan, lahat tayo ay nakararanas ng mga
suliran. Saan lamang tayo naiiba? Sa pagdadala ng mga ito.
Masarap mabuhay, lalo na kung nakapaglilingkod tayo sa
Diyos. Kung naitatanong man natin minsan sa ating mga
sarili na tila baga pinababayaan Niya tayo, nasa atin
ang pagkakamali. Marahil, hindi pa lubusang nakikita
ng Dios sa atin ang taos puso na pagbabago at panunumbalik
sa Kanya. Kung mayroon mang nakaaalam ng nilalaman ng
ating puso ay ang Diyos. Wala tayong maililihim sa Kaniya.
Kaya sa lahat ng suliranin, pagsubok, gaano man kahaba o kaikli,
inihingi natin ng lunas mula sa Dios...


Puso ang kaniyang titingnan at kung gaano ang ating
katapatan sa lubos na pagsunod sa kanya tungo sa
pagbabagong buhay.Lagi nating salaminin ang ating
sarili tuwing makadarama tayo ng kalungkutan.
Higit sa lahat, ang Diyos ay di umiidlip. Gumagamit
Siya ng mga kasangkapan upang tayo ay tulungan,
aliwin, at alalayan sa lahat ng pagkakataon at panahon
ng ating buhay.

ANG PAYO KO SA YO KAIBIGAN: Magpatuloy ka anoman ang
balakid sa buhay. Hindi ang sanglibutan ang tutulong
sa iyo, hindi ang kaibigan, na ang hangad lamang ay
gamitin ka sa sariling kapakinabangan, hindi ang
hanapbuhay na maglalayo sa iyo sa Diyos, hindi ang
inggit ng ibang tao, hindi rin ang pagnanasa nila na
maibagsak ka o hadlangan ka, hindi rin ang pagbabalik
sa madilim na nakaraan!


Ang tutulong sa iyo, ang sarili mong pagpapasya.
AngPasya mo......
MANUMBALIK SA DIYOS, IYON ANG TAMA.
ANOMANG DAPAT HUMADLANG SA YO, MANINDIGAN KA GAANO MAN
KAHIRAP, ANOMAN ANG SAKIT NG LOOB NA MARAMDAMAN MO,
MAGPATULOY KA, GUMAPANG KA, PILITIN MO, LULUHA KA,
MASASAKTAN KA, MAGDARAMDAM KA, BAHAGI NG BUHAY YAN,
SUBALIT PAKATANDAAN MO... LAHAT AY MAY HANGGANAN!

Klaudia Koronel